"It has been said that time heals all wounds. I do not agree. The wounds remain. In time, the mind, protecting its sanity, covers them with scar tissue, and the pain lessens, but it is never gone."
Rose Kennedy
In my experience time does help heal, however, I agree with Mrs. Kennedy that wounds wounds are always there. In my case they have a very thin scar covering them. This scar does protect my sanity. The scars are needed in order for me to live a somewhat normal life. When I refer to the scars as being very thin I mean that it does not take a lot to tear them. It may be a story on the news, a nightmare, flashback, or just a seriously bad day. Any of these things can rip the scars right off of the wounds that I have in regards to being sexually abused, assaulted, and raped. When this happens I have to fight the depression that wants to consume me.
Scars protect us, they allow us to develop coping skills so that our lives can go on. My emotional scars started out very thick when I was very young. I did not think about or dwell on the abuse that I suffered. This was a good thing, I couldn't think about or dwell on the abuse or I would not have made it out of my teens. This was my protection from totally falling apart. I had no family to turn to. I left home when I was fifteen and bounced around from one house to another of mostly friends until moving back with my mother at seventeen. My mother was not concerned with what had happened in my past, she made me feel that I was a burden when I moved back with her. I carried around the abuse that I suffered in silence for years until it became too much to bear.
I experienced marital problems and started going to therapy. It was the best thing that ever happened to me. I was finally able to talk to someone about all of the horrible things that had been done to me. The therapist helped me to see that none of it was my fault and that I could move forward. With a lot of hard work, prayer, and the support of my husband I was able to start living my life without this big dark cloud over my head.